Risking YES

There’s something bold & magical about saying “YES” to the imperfections of your life.  Make no mistake ~ authentic living is messy; things go awry; yet stumbling upon the “YES” word can be revelatory!

I’m intrigued by the gaps, the spaces and places between, the times of feeling “OFF” or “EMPTY” (where light can enter).  For most people there are “speed bumps” to joy, strict standards for creativity or other inhibitors.

Time and travel have helped illuminate the paradox of privilege and a distinct connection between risk-taking and joy,  i.e.  the ecstasy of roads less travelled; the art and exhiliration of “bushwhacking” and path finding.

When we’ve been striving to excel at inherited lives, habits of perfectionism don’t wash away easily. Doubt, skepticism, mistrust whisper as we confront relentless opportunities to be “wrong,” “not enough,” or say “NO” to ourselves.

Embracing life unconditionally takes practice. It helps to have “the Goddess of Self-Compassion” along for the ride: encouraging us to resist comparison, give ourselves deep rest, bounce back, allow for wiggle room… i.e.  say “YES” to ourselves…)

Empowered by “YES,” this magical moment becomes taste-able, explore-able, honor-able, appreciate-able.  Re-oriented to satisfaction, we can  claim our fertile ground of joy. Wholehearted, “YES” living isn´t easy, yet sunshine pours out of gaps where we´ve let go of ideas for how things should be.


Experiment by saying “NO” as a contrast.  Bring to mind a situation that elicits frustration, fear or sadness.  Try saying “No” while pushing this away.  Aware of sensations in your stomach, chest or throat, imagine what your life might be like if you continue on this path with thoughts and feelings of “NO.”

Recall this same unpleasant situation* and allow your natural reactions to be experienced within a larger field of “YES.” What happens to the unpleasantness? What happens in your heart? How might your world be if you brought the power and effervescence of “YES” to inevitable challenges and sorrows?

note: when saying yes to something, go ahead and schedule it in your calendar during work hours and set your “concentration app” so that you have 1-2 hrs. devoted to that project.






Empowered Receiving

Women have super powers for giving ~ it’s our very nature! Yet, when we’re not able to receive it’s impossible to benefit fully from what we’ve been given; we can’t enjoy what we have, nor foster truly healthy relationships…)  We deplete ourselves.

The Art of Empowered Receiving allows us to give exponentially more. However, receiving is not something to grasp intellectually. Physiological and emotional experiences connected to receiving were imprinted through your body before you had words to distinguish them. And your rational brain (neo-cortex) does not have access to this. It is your emotional (limbic) brain, seat for the value judgments you’ve made (often unconsciously), that most influences your capacities. Furthermore, circumstances surrounding your birth and natal imprints may even have taught you to reject receiving:  “No thank you. I can do it. It’s alright, I can manage.”

What is available to us today is the ability to locate and generate FEELINGS of receiving love and support regardless of environment or outcome. Learning how to locate these feelings in your body can re-orient you towards juicey satisfaction and sustainable fulfillment. 
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