Risking YES

There’s something bold & magical about saying “YES” to the imperfections of your life.  Make no mistake ~ authentic living is messy; things go awry; yet stumbling upon the “YES” word can be revelatory!

I’m intrigued by the gaps, the spaces and places between, the times of feeling “OFF” or “EMPTY” (where light can enter).  For most people there are “speed bumps” to joy, strict standards for creativity or other inhibitors.

Time and travel have helped illuminate the paradox of privilege and a distinct connection between risk-taking and joy,  i.e.  the ecstasy of roads less travelled; the art and exhiliration of “bushwhacking” and path finding.

When we’ve been striving to excel at inherited lives, habits of perfectionism don’t wash away easily. Doubt, skepticism, mistrust whisper as we confront relentless opportunities to be “wrong,” “not enough,” or say “NO” to ourselves.

Embracing life unconditionally takes practice. It helps to have “the Goddess of Self-Compassion” along for the ride: encouraging us to resist comparison, give ourselves deep rest, bounce back, allow for wiggle room… i.e.  say “YES” to ourselves…)

Empowered by “YES,” this magical moment becomes taste-able, explore-able, honor-able, appreciate-able.  Re-oriented to satisfaction, we can  claim our fertile ground of joy. Wholehearted, “YES” living isn´t easy, yet sunshine pours out of gaps where we´ve let go of ideas for how things should be.


Experiment by saying “NO” as a contrast.  Bring to mind a situation that elicits frustration, fear or sadness.  Try saying “No” while pushing this away.  Aware of sensations in your stomach, chest or throat, imagine what your life might be like if you continue on this path with thoughts and feelings of “NO.”

Recall this same unpleasant situation* and allow your natural reactions to be experienced within a larger field of “YES.” What happens to the unpleasantness? What happens in your heart? How might your world be if you brought the power and effervescence of “YES” to inevitable challenges and sorrows?

note: when saying yes to something, go ahead and schedule it in your calendar during work hours and set your “concentration app” so that you have 1-2 hrs. devoted to that project.







BIRTH is a potent metaphor for achieving ease & satisfaction in new projects, business initiatives, challenges or transitions.

Moving through change, most of us do experience a sense of having out-grown jobs, circumstances, relationships, or living spaces we´ve been inhabiting (or tolerating.)

Firm gentle guidance and skillful support are called for to navigate or leverage the immense dynamics present today. With a barrage of distractions, drifts and involuntary contractions, how does one sustain inspiration, clarity, commitment and focus?  

We´re certain to meet obstacles, momentary doubts, frustrations and confusions…. on the path to discovering inner strength, building self trust & discipline to keep moving Forward… and feel resistance at times and unpleasant reactions to that which appears to blocks our way. At times, we may want to give up, yet denial,  holding back or retreating are no longer options.

Focus on what´s in your control: supportive breathing… gentle reaching… expanding…. relaxing… requesting tender, skillful support.

We  need not go it alone. Decisions based on fear are never supportive and often back fire. And disruptive interventions are counter-intuitive.

Practice self compassion and take responsibility for receiving tender guidance and listening care!


Watch this 5′ video. A mini meditation that inspires receiving loving respectful support:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OPSAgs-exfQ

Ask yourself the following: 

  • What is my relationship to support?
  • How am I holding/supporting myself?
  • Am I ready/willing/able to  Trust support?
  •                                                Request  support?
  •                                                 Allow/Receive it?
  • How might I inadvertently Resist/Reject support?



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