Risking YES

There’s something bold & magical about saying “YES” to the imperfections of your life.  Make no mistake ~ authentic living is messy; things go awry; yet stumbling upon the “YES” word can be revelatory!

I’m intrigued by the gaps, the spaces and places between, the times of feeling “OFF” or “EMPTY” (where light can enter).  For most people there are “speed bumps” to joy, strict standards for creativity or other inhibitors.

Time and travel have helped illuminate the paradox of privilege and a distinct connection between risk-taking and joy,  i.e.  the ecstasy of roads less travelled; the art and exhiliration of “bushwhacking” and path finding.

When we’ve been striving to excel at inherited lives, habits of perfectionism don’t wash away easily. Doubt, skepticism, mistrust whisper as we confront relentless opportunities to be “wrong,” “not enough,” or say “NO” to ourselves.

Embracing life unconditionally takes practice. It helps to have “the Goddess of Self-Compassion” along for the ride: encouraging us to resist comparison, give ourselves deep rest, bounce back, allow for wiggle room… i.e.  say “YES” to ourselves…)

Empowered by “YES,” this magical moment becomes taste-able, explore-able, honor-able, appreciate-able.  Re-oriented to satisfaction, we can  claim our fertile ground of joy. Wholehearted, “YES” living isn´t easy, yet sunshine pours out of gaps where we´ve let go of ideas for how things should be.

YOUR TURN:

Experiment by saying “NO” as a contrast.  Bring to mind a situation that elicits frustration, fear or sadness.  Try saying “No” while pushing this away.  Aware of sensations in your stomach, chest or throat, imagine what your life might be like if you continue on this path with thoughts and feelings of “NO.”

Recall this same unpleasant situation* and allow your natural reactions to be experienced within a larger field of “YES.” What happens to the unpleasantness? What happens in your heart? How might your world be if you brought the power and effervescence of “YES” to inevitable challenges and sorrows?

note: when saying yes to something, go ahead and schedule it in your calendar during work hours and set your “concentration app” so that you have 1-2 hrs. devoted to that project.

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Pace It

Trekking in the Himalayas made it easy to see how frenetic world is.  Hiking up and down mountains for weeks enabled me to quench a certain thirst and harvest the profound benefits of slowing down and gaining clarity, wisdom, and connection.

Studying somatic psychology & mastery of body-centered coaching, taught me about the power found in moving at a slower pace. I’ve collected enriching alternatives to the fragmentation created by life´s  furious pace. And now understand what it takes to integrate experiences and be able to speak and act with congruency.

BIG POWERFUL JUICY stuff! And more than ever, during these times of  accelerated transformations, those of us who are catalysts and change artists are  called to release what no longer works (foods, people, habits, jobs, busyness…) Many are changing diets, raising their standards, choosing to be a “pro” at what we do…taking ourselves/our work seriously, refusing amateur dabbling & unhealthy habits… perhaps even “Going Global” with our message.

To be  relevant and congruent, we must pace ourselves and learn to trust creative processes. In the end, it may well take the same amount of time whether we rush or not ~ we might even save time by slowing down. Yet, the choice remains: Live juicy or dry out?

YOUR TURN

Reflect on people you know who rush around yet never really arrive (rabbit vs. tortoise.)  Distinguish between what makes you busy and what really moves you forward. Dare to create empty spaces in your schedule for staying connected and congruent. Explore  insights and short cuts that bubble up.

Practice postponing immediate gratification and notice higher quality results emerging.

Explore slowing down & arriving in greater participation with an open mind & juicy heart!

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